Jun 2, 2017

Lessons Learned Part 21

We learn and adapt our behavior in the small things we do and notice every day. In 2017, I'm keeping track of these tiny lessons and adaptations in my life.

It's Good to Ask for Help
My foster son moved to his aunt's home this week and while I'm very happy that he's able to reunite with his family, he leaves a big, quiet hole for me to fill and lots of questions about how to handle these new relationships I have with his family. I attended a support group this week that was one of the best things I've done all year. I didn't even speak but hearing the viewpoints and advice foster parents are able to give one another felt refreshing and, well, helpful. 

Keep Asking Why
Critical thinking skills are so mandatory these days that I have to remind myself to continue questioning my own opinions about everything I read and see. For example, this week I learned that we all view FL (myself included, though I am a native Floridian) as a state full of people who act silly. We love to poke fun at Florida Man but we only know about him because of Florida's extremely progressive open government policies. The question isn't, "why is Florida so crazy?" but should be, "Why don't we know about the crazy happening in every other state?" 

Time to Sharpen Those Coping Skills
After the transition of my foster son from my home to his aunt's home this week, we had planned for me to watch him twice this week to ease his transition (and mine). Unfortunately this plan got canceled at the very last minute - i.e. after I was already at the meeting place, had made dinner for him, scoped out activities, and prepared and brought a snack - and so I was left in a puddle of disappointment at not getting to see my favorite 2 year old. I gave myself about 10 minutes to just feel sad and then had to move on and accept without placing blame. I wish I could have made it through without a sob, but I'll get there one day. 

Keep Trying New Skills
I am pretty good at baking bread after practicing one recipe a bunch of times, so I took it to the grill this week to see if it would work. Did it? Kind of, but it wasn't my best batch. A bit scorched on the outside and underdone on the inside, but still tasty. I shared a few pieces with various friends who stopped by and they all (said they) enjoyed it. 

Previous Lessons Learned
Part 20
Part 19
Part 18
Part 17
Part 16
Part 15
Part 14
Part 13
Part 12
Part 11
Part 10
Part 9
Part 8
Part 7
Part 6
Part 5
Part 4
Part 3
Part 2
Part 1