May 19, 2017

Lessons Learned Part 19

We learn and adapt our behavior in the small things we do and notice every day. In 2017, I'm keeping track of these tiny lessons and adaptations in my life. 

Leave Room for Creative Connections
This week I had the honor of participating in a Swedish Embassy disaster risk reduction workshop where the subject of interviewing survivors came up - a known key to improving disaster response and preparedness. It dawned on me that we could use the same technique in cancer by interviewing patients who did join a clinical trial to find out more about their journey. I don't think it's been done. 

Again With the Strategic Patience
My foster son teaches me so much and he surprised me twice this week. I finally found his favorite show Mickey Mouse Clubhouse and when we watched an episode together I realized when he participated in the call to "Toodles" who is the character who helps Mickey solve challenges that he does this whenever he's solving a problem. He shouts, "Ohhhh Tooooooooooodles" in a sing song voice. The other time was when I asked at daycare pickup, "Are you ready to go?" and he answered, "Fired up!" - in our first week together I said, "Fired Up, Ready to Go" about 4 times but hadn't said it since then. He really listens and remembers everything. 

It Feels Good to Be Organized
Several years ago a family friend who frequently takes me fishing when I return home said, "You forgot to get organized" He is notorious for being a very good organizer but I was not. I have done a lot in the last few years to be a better organizer, though, because I notice that when I am organized for my day or week or goals or whatever, I am much more relaxed and can get much more done and can be present with many more people. This week I did a good job and it was therefore an excellent week. 

Be Ready For the Heartbreak, But Don't Dwell On It
I learned this week that I don't have much more time with my foster son because he'll be moving to an aunt's house in about 10 days. I've been intellectually preparing myself for this moment for over a year but now I'll have to find out if I'm emotionally ready for it. As a friend's 5yo foster daughter reminded her recently, "Don't be a crybaby!" I love and agree with that notion and I will savor and enjoy these moments with my foster son and continue to make sure he feels safe and loved every minute he's with me without dwelling too much on how much I will miss him. 

Previous Lessons Learned
Part 18
Part 17
Part 16
Part 15
Part 14
Part 13
Part 12
Part 11
Part 10
Part 9
Part 8
Part 7
Part 6
Part 5
Part 4
Part 3
Part 2
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