She pinned the tail on the donkey:
At least I'm not the only one who's uncertain about modern dating definitions. Does a date involve kissing? Making future plans? The asker paying for everything? Warm fuzzy feelings? It's hard to tell. Sloane Crosley gives me the funniest answer: "If there's another feasible agenda—professional or a friend of a friend in town—I tend to focus on that and usually don't know it's a date. Not until someone tries to kiss me, and even then I usually file it as an accident of the mouth."